Problems. What exactly are problems?
Google defines problems as : "A matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome." Problems need to be dealt with.
When you discuss your problems with someone you think they can help you, or rather even understand you, do they really understand you? Can they always help you? Everyone has issues. Everyone deals with them in different ways. Can all problems be dealt with? Do all problems have solutions? Maybe. Maybe not. Some, you just have to let them go. Let it slide past you.
Maybe they wont matter anymore. Maybe they will disappear.
Some people say and to be honest most of them say this, "It's fine. Everybody goes through this. It's part of life. You're just making a big deal out of it. You will get over it." Don't you absolutely hate it when someone says this? If one could get over it, they fucking would. They wouldn't be coming to you in the first place. So if you can't say, "It's okay. I will be there for you," then just shut the hell up. Big or small, it is a problem and it needs to be dealt with . So listen to them. Advice them. Be there for them. Just be there for them.
And some people say, "you should talk about your problems, maybe we can help." But can they? No, they can't. As much as you would like to have someone solve them for you, nobody can. It's because they didn't go through it in the first place. They will provide you with solutions. Solutions that resonate with how they perceive life and your problem. But the harsh reality is, You have to save yourself. You have to be your own superhero. Sucks. I know. But then again, reciting your problems will just come back in the form of "possible solutions."
Escaping the issue is also one of the solutions, not a very good one. The worst one actually. But, it does work for some people.
So, choose! Choose your weapons. Use them wisely. Otherwise just walk away with the hope that one day it will just fizzle out.
Google defines problems as : "A matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome." Problems need to be dealt with. When you discuss your problems with someone you think they can help you, or rather even understand you, do they really understand you? Can they always help you? Everyone has issues. Everyone deals with them in different ways. Can all problems be dealt with? Do all problems have solutions? Maybe. Maybe not. Some, you just have to let them go. Let it slide past you.
Maybe they wont matter anymore. Maybe they will disappear.
Some people say and to be honest most of them say this, "It's fine. Everybody goes through this. It's part of life. You're just making a big deal out of it. You will get over it." Don't you absolutely hate it when someone says this? If one could get over it, they fucking would. They wouldn't be coming to you in the first place. So if you can't say, "It's okay. I will be there for you," then just shut the hell up. Big or small, it is a problem and it needs to be dealt with . So listen to them. Advice them. Be there for them. Just be there for them.
And some people say, "you should talk about your problems, maybe we can help." But can they? No, they can't. As much as you would like to have someone solve them for you, nobody can. It's because they didn't go through it in the first place. They will provide you with solutions. Solutions that resonate with how they perceive life and your problem. But the harsh reality is, You have to save yourself. You have to be your own superhero. Sucks. I know. But then again, reciting your problems will just come back in the form of "possible solutions."
Escaping the issue is also one of the solutions, not a very good one. The worst one actually. But, it does work for some people.
So, choose! Choose your weapons. Use them wisely. Otherwise just walk away with the hope that one day it will just fizzle out.
