I have come across a picture of an old couple holding hands which said, in the olden days, we used to fix what is broken.
It is true. But, the question is how true?
In the olden days, things were more simpler and so were people. People then use to believe that if you marry the person, you have to spend your entire life with them. If someone wanted out of the marriage, the person was looked down upon. The topic of their marriage became a public debate topic. Also, love in the older days were simpler. You know the flaws, you live with the flaws.
Today, love has become complicated. 13 year olds complain about being heartbroken and 40 year old people look down upon that fact. I wonder why? When even a 13 year old has the capacity to love someone, they do have a capacity to be heartbroken.
My best friend asked me what I wanted in a relationship and I had no answer because I never really thought about it. There are four common answers, love, trust, understanding and friendship. When I thought over these four aspects, this was my conclusion:
David Beckham was asked how come he never cheat on his wife. He replied with a simple answer,"Victoria is my best friend. I can never hurt my best friend." That made so much sense to me. I could never dream about hurting my best friend. I need my "better half" to understand me. It's like when you have a tough boss. You initially struggle with them but eventually you understand that your boss only wants perfect results. Once your mind and your body understands their mannerism, you learn to accept them for who they really are. Then anything they do or say, you know why they did it, you know what to do in that situation. This reduces the chances of any miscommunication or misunderstandings. It is only because you understand them.
Love is subjective. You may love someone for who they truly are, which is great. But, everyone changes with time and everyone grows. Is it always necessary that you will love them even when they have changed? Will it bum you out, to walk home and meet an entirely new person who no longer resonates with you? Trust is something you build over time. Unless it is rock steady, your relationship is walking on a very thin wire. On the other hand trust only comes in when you have people who are likely to destroy your relationship. For example, when your better half has gone to buy flowers for you or is cooking dinner for you, trust has absolutely no role to play. Then what is your relationship really based on?
Are today's relationships based on the animal attraction? Are they based on interests? What is the difference between the relationships in the black and white era and the colored era? More importantly, what makes a relationship last?
